With a little intentionality, you can keep your spouse and children from being sacrificed
on the altar of ministry. Average pastors put their marriage and family life on autopilot, hoping that, because they are called to God’s work, everything will stay on track through the years — but not doing a lot to ensure that outcome. They love their families, of course, but passively and without much concern for the long-term effects of daily decisions. On the other hand, good pastors, recognizing that love is more than a feeling, make a conscious decision to love their spouse and children with intention.
Boundaries
Boundaries are simply guidelines to indicate where one thing ends and something else begins. They can be thought of as rules you put in place to safeguard and deepen the relationships that exist within them. One of the single best ways to love your family intentionally is to set up boundaries between various areas of your life. For example, defining the boundary between ministry life and family life is key to creating a happy home. What falls on the ministry side of the boundary is another discussion for another time.
For now, I want you to begin thinking about what it looks like to draw a boundary line around your home life, in order to protect and nurture what’s inside.
Tune in next week for part 2 of this series.
Your partner in ministry,
Nelson
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