Love Your Family (Part 1)

With a little intentionality, you can keep your spouse and children from being sacrificed
on the altar of ministry. Average pastors put their marriage and family life on autopilot, hoping that, because they are called to God’s work, everything will stay on track through the years — but not doing a lot to ensure that outcome. They love their families, of course, but passively and without much concern for the long-term effects of daily decisions. On the other hand, good pastors, recognizing that love is more than a feeling, make a conscious decision to love their spouse and children with intention.

Boundaries are simply guidelines to indicate where one thing ends and something else begins. They can be thought of as rules you put in place to safeguard and deepen the relationships that exist within them. One of the single best ways to love your family intentionally is to set up boundaries between various areas of your life. For example, defining the boundary between ministry life and family life is key to creating a happy home. What falls on the ministry side of the boundary is another discussion for another time.

For now, I want you to begin thinking about what it looks like to draw a boundary line around your home life, in order to protect and nurture what’s inside.

Tune in next week for part 2 of this series.

Your partner in ministry,


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About Nelson Searcy

Nelson Searcy is an experienced church planter, coach and church growth strategist, working with churches in over 45 denominations. Nelson is also the Founding and Lead Pastor of The Journey Church, with locations across New York City and in San Francisco and Boca Raton, FL. He first developed the Assimilation System 10 years ago at the Journey Church and has since implemented and improved these strategies with over 3,000 churches across all sizes and denominations. He started coaching pastors in 2006 and has personally coached over 2100+ senior pastors, helping them break common growth barriers like 125, 250, 500, 1000 and beyond, all while maintaining personal life and ministry balance. As founder of Church Leader Insights and the Renegade Pastors Network, he has trained more than 50,000 church leaders (3,000+ church planters). He is the author of over 80 church growth resources and 15+ books, including Fusion: Turning First-Time Guests Into Fully-Engaged Members of Your Church and The Renegade Pastor: Abandoning Average in Your Life and Ministry. His continued mission is to help church leaders around the world cooperate with God in creating healthy, thriving churches. Nelson is married to Kelley and together they have one son, Alexander.

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