Love Your Family (Part 1)

With a little intentionality, you can keep your spouse and children from being sacrificed
on the altar of ministry. Average pastors put their marriage and family life on autopilot, hoping that, because they are called to God’s work, everything will stay on track through the years — but not doing a lot to ensure that outcome. They love their families, of course, but passively and without much concern for the long-term effects of daily decisions. On the other hand, good pastors, recognizing that love is more than a feeling, make a conscious decision to love their spouse and children with intention.

Boundaries
Boundaries are simply guidelines to indicate where one thing ends and something else begins. They can be thought of as rules you put in place to safeguard and deepen the relationships that exist within them. One of the single best ways to love your family intentionally is to set up boundaries between various areas of your life. For example, defining the boundary between ministry life and family life is key to creating a happy home. What falls on the ministry side of the boundary is another discussion for another time.

For now, I want you to begin thinking about what it looks like to draw a boundary line around your home life, in order to protect and nurture what’s inside.

Tune in next week for part 2 of this series.

Your partner in ministry,

Nelson

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Nelson Searcy is an experienced church growth strategist, pastor, church planter and coach, consulting with churches around the world. As founder of Church Leader Insights and the Renegade Pastors Network, he has personally trained more than 3,500 church leaders in over 45 denominations through live events, seminars and monthly coaching. Nelson is also the Founding and Lead Pastor of The Journey Church, with locations across New York City and in Boca Raton, FL. Nelson and his church routinely appear on lists such as “The 50 Most Influential Churches” and “The 25 Most Innovative Leaders.” He is the author of over 100 church growth resources and 18+ books, including The Renegade Pastor: Abandoning Average in Your Life, Ministry and The Difference Maker: Using Your Everyday Life for Eternal Impact, and At the Cross with the People Who Were There. He and his wife, Kelley, have one son, Alexander.

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