What are the pressure points that you are constantly running into with your spouse or children? Those are generally good indicators of where you need to lay down some boundary lines. Think about something that frustrates you and your family, then back off that frustration and ask yourself what kind of boundary could eliminate it.
For example, if your spouse is frustrated that you always have your phone in hand–texting, emailing, talking or whatever you are doing–when your attention should be on the family, create a boundary to alleviate that frustration. Here are some possible guidelines that could do the trick:
- Decide to put your phone away between the time you get home for dinner and when the kids go to bed.
- Set a “no cell phones at the dinner table” rule for you, your spouse and your kids. This boundary alone can go a long way toward connecting you with your family on a daily basis.
- Set a “phone off” time every night and stick to it. Once your phone is off, put it out of sight until the next morning.
– Nelson Searcy
The above excerpt is from p. 49 of The Renegade Pastor: Abandoning Average in Your Life and Ministry.
Drawing from Nelson Searcy’s decades of ministry experience, The Renegade Pastor is a relevant, step-by-step resource for church leaders who are ready to step up in surrender to the pursuit of God’s best for his or her life and work.
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