Managing Stress: Let It Go

The below excerpt is from my book The Renegade Pastor’s Guide to Managing the Stress of Ministry.

If we don’t develop the habit of decompressing after every stressful day, and even during each day, we will carry that stress with us everywhere. And the effects will devastate our ministries and our family lives.

In order to decompress effectively, take these opportunities to decompress during each day:

  • Alternate between high-stress and low-stress activities. Whenever possible, schedule activities you enjoy in between those that cause you stress.
  • Leave the stress from your last meeting at your last meeting. Visualize yourself leaving your stress, like a package, at the site of your last meeting. And don’t bother to pick it up again.
  • Use the natural times during the day to decompress. Take advantage of the natural breaks in the day to do some of the things we recommend to let go of stress.
  • Be sure to decompress before you go home to your family. This is the most important time to decompress. Have a decompression time between the office and your home — even if you’re working from home! The time you spend with your family is sacred — don’t ruin it with the stresses of the day.

Those are the natural times during the day when you can let go of the stress that has accumulated. Now remember these tips that will help you decompress effectively:

  • Write down your stresses and frustrations in a journal. 
  • Pray honestly, passionately, even angrily to God about the things that are stressing you out. 
  • Change your way of thinking. Try to find what God is trying to teach you in every difficult circumstance. Think of your stressors as challenges that can be overcome.
  • Approach every concern with an attitude of positivity and gratitude. No matter how large your troubles, God is always bigger.
  • Make changes in your behavior. Exercise to get your frustrations out. Get your mind off your present stressors. Decide to take action against your stress.
  • Remember to leave tomorrow’s troubles for tomorrow. You can fight only one day at a time. You will only drain your time, energy, and focus if you try to fight tomorrow’s battles today.

Keep these tips in mind as you face each new day. Make the commitment to let stress go so that it doesn’t weigh you down and steal your joy. Ministry is never easy. But if we learn to let go of stress, we can keep the stress from robbing us of the joy God desires for us.

– Nelson Searcy and Richard Jarman

The above excerpt is from p. 107-108 of The Renegade Pastor’s Guide to Managing the Stress of Ministry.

Pastors Nelson Searcy and Richard Jarman share their secrets to effective stress management with practical steps and insights that you can start implementing immediately! God wants you to be a fruitful, faithful minister of the gospel. He wants you, as a Renegade Pastor, to rise above average as you pursue God’s best for you, your family, and your ministry.

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About Nelson Searcy

Nelson Searcy is an experienced church planter, coach and church growth strategist, working with churches in over 45 denominations. Nelson is also the Founding and Lead Pastor of The Journey Church, with locations across New York City and in San Francisco and Boca Raton, FL. He first developed the Assimilation System 10 years ago at the Journey Church and has since implemented and improved these strategies with over 3,000 churches across all sizes and denominations. He started coaching pastors in 2006 and has personally coached over 2100+ senior pastors, helping them break common growth barriers like 125, 250, 500, 1000 and beyond, all while maintaining personal life and ministry balance. As founder of Church Leader Insights and the Renegade Pastors Network, he has trained more than 50,000 church leaders (3,000+ church planters). He is the author of over 85 church growth resources and 17+ books, including Fusion: Turning First-Time Guests Into Fully-Engaged Members of Your Church and The Renegade Pastor: Abandoning Average in Your Life and Ministry. His continued mission is to help church leaders around the world cooperate with God in creating healthy, thriving churches. Nelson is married to Kelley and together they have one son, Alexander.

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