Finding Good Friends: Taking the Risk of Making New Connections

Take a step back for a minute and think about the friendships in your life.

Do you have friends with whom you would feel comfortable developing a deeper, more meaningful, more trusting relationship? Most people don’t. Most people feel the void of these kinds of connected, growing, encouraging friendships.

Most churches offer small groups—and small groups are the best way to begin growing friendships with like-minded people who are also looking for a few good friends to do life with. If you aren’t familiar with the concept, a small group is simply a group of ten to fifteen people who get together on a regular basis to learn more about God, create connections, and have some fun.

Small groups are the best way to begin growing friendships with like-minded people who are also looking for a few good friends to do life with. Click To Tweet

Getting into a small group is not a guarantee that you will suddenly have great relationships. But you will find yourself surrounded by people who care about you, people who are on a similar life path, people you can be yourself around. You will find people you enjoy hanging out with. You will learn to carry their burdens, and they will be willing to carry yours. You will have the opportunity to encourage them and receive encouragement from them when you need it. And through your small group, or maybe through a series of small groups (depending on how your church is set up), you will begin to identify the people you want to go even deeper with. You will find those friends you will look at a few years from now and wonder how you ever got along without them.

There is nothing wrong with being intentional about the places you choose to find friends. In fact, there is a lot right with it. And there is no better place to find others who will help you grow than in a church, among people who are all seeking after God and his best. Your health depends on it.

– Nelson Searcy and Jennifer Dykes Henson

The above excerpt is from p. 105-106 of The New You: A Guide to Better Physical, Mental, Emotional and Spiritual Wellness.

With your copy of The New You, you will come away with specific strategies on how to lose weight, get more sleep, lower stress, nurture better relationships, connect with God and much more! Anyone who wants to trade in the frustration of average living and less-than health for the hallmarks of the new life God promises will find The New You an effective personal guide for the journey.

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About Nelson Searcy

Nelson Searcy is an experienced church planter, coach and church growth strategist, working with churches in over 45 denominations. Nelson is also the Founding and Lead Pastor of The Journey Church, with locations across New York City and in San Francisco and Boca Raton, FL. He first developed the Assimilation System 10 years ago at the Journey Church and has since implemented and improved these strategies with over 3,000 churches across all sizes and denominations. He started coaching pastors in 2006 and has personally coached over 2100+ senior pastors, helping them break common growth barriers like 125, 250, 500, 1000 and beyond, all while maintaining personal life and ministry balance. As founder of Church Leader Insights and the Renegade Pastors Network, he has trained more than 50,000 church leaders (3,000+ church planters). He is the author of over 85 church growth resources and 17+ books, including Fusion: Turning First-Time Guests Into Fully-Engaged Members of Your Church and The Renegade Pastor: Abandoning Average in Your Life and Ministry. His continued mission is to help church leaders around the world cooperate with God in creating healthy, thriving churches. Nelson is married to Kelley and together they have one son, Alexander.

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