Companions in Christ: What God Says About Close Friends

God created us to have close relationships. When we don’t have these close relationships, we are actually living out of step with the way God created us.

The great people of God had companions, almost without exception. (The ones who didn’t often found themselves in trouble.) We could start with Adam and Eve. Moses had Aaron as his companion. The kings had their advisors. (Granted, some of them weren’t very good.)

In the New Testament, Jesus had the twelve disciples. When He sent out messengers to the cities where He was going, He sent them out in pairs. Paul always traveled with several companions, including Barnabas, Silas, Timothy, and others. There is a definite pattern in Scripture of people doing ministry together.

“And if someone overpowers one person, two can resist him. A cord of three strands is not easily broken.” — Ecclesiastes 4:12. There is a level of strength that comes from having friends who are looking out for you. Notice that it’s a cord of three strands, not ten or twelve. You don’t need an army of close friends. Just a couple of close friends can be your army.

“A fool’s way is right in his own eyes, but whoever listens to counsel is wise.” — Proverbs 12:15. We normally see things from our own limited perspective. When we have friends surrounding us, though, we can take advantage of their expanded perspective.

Whether we are conscious of it or not, we are role models and examples for our congregations. People follow what we do, even more than what we say. We need to have close friends whom we trust and confide in so that our church members see how important it is. Then they will do it in their own lives as well.

– Nelson Searcy and Richard Jarman

The above excerpt is from p. 113-115 of The Renegade Pastor’s Guide to Managing the Stress of Ministry.

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About Nelson Searcy

Nelson Searcy is an experienced church planter, coach and church growth strategist, working with churches in over 45 denominations. Nelson is also the Founding and Lead Pastor of The Journey Church, with locations across New York City and in San Francisco and Boca Raton, FL. He first developed the Assimilation System 10 years ago at the Journey Church and has since implemented and improved these strategies with over 3,000 churches across all sizes and denominations. He started coaching pastors in 2006 and has personally coached over 2100+ senior pastors, helping them break common growth barriers like 125, 250, 500, 1000 and beyond, all while maintaining personal life and ministry balance. As founder of Church Leader Insights and the Renegade Pastors Network, he has trained more than 50,000 church leaders (3,000+ church planters). He is the author of over 85 church growth resources and 17+ books, including Fusion: Turning First-Time Guests Into Fully-Engaged Members of Your Church and The Renegade Pastor: Abandoning Average in Your Life and Ministry. His continued mission is to help church leaders around the world cooperate with God in creating healthy, thriving churches. Nelson is married to Kelley and together they have one son, Alexander.

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