Charting a New Course: What to Do When You Don’t Respond Well to Stress

Let’s face it: none of us are always going to respond correctly, especially when a challenging situation first hits.

So let’s talk briefly about what to do when we’ve had time to reflect and realize that we could have done things better. Here are three ideas about what to do if you find you’ve started handling a difficulty in an ineffective way:

  • Don’t compound the mistake by continuing it. It takes some courage to admit you’ve made a mistake. Sometimes it’s easier to just keep plowing ahead, even if you’re going in the wrong direction. Stop! Repeating a mistake is much worse than making one in the first place.
  • Admit your error. Most of us find it hard to admit mistakes. But good leaders can say, “I blew it” and move on. Admitting your mistakes makes you a stronger, more transparent leader. And it gives those around you permission to make mistakes also.
  • Chart a new course. You may have started down the wrong road. But you can always change the path you’re on. The sooner you get started in the right direction, the sooner you can get to where you need to be.
  • When you do respond incorrectly in a stressful circumstance, remember that few mistakes are fatal. Don’t compound your mistake by continuing it. Instead, admit your mistakes, apologize for your errors, and move forward in the correct direction.
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There is not only one correct way to respond to any given difficult situation. With experience and dependence on the Holy Spirit, we can hopefully achieve some level of clarity about the source of our stress. That, in turn, helps us chart a course of action that can resolve the challenging circumstance.

– Nelson Searcy and Richard Jarman

The above excerpt is from p.40-42 of The Renegade Pastor’s Guide to Managing the Stress of Ministry.

Pastors Nelson Searcy and Richard Jarman share their secrets to effective stress management with practical steps and insights that you can start implementing immediately! God wants you to be a fruitful, faithful minister of the gospel. He wants you, as a Renegade Pastor, to rise above average as you pursue God’s best for you, your family, and your ministry.

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About Nelson Searcy

Nelson Searcy is an experienced church planter, coach and church growth strategist, working with churches in over 45 denominations. Nelson is also the Founding and Lead Pastor of The Journey Church, with locations across New York City and in San Francisco and Boca Raton, FL. He first developed the Assimilation System 10 years ago at the Journey Church and has since implemented and improved these strategies with over 3,000 churches across all sizes and denominations. He started coaching pastors in 2006 and has personally coached over 2100+ senior pastors, helping them break common growth barriers like 125, 250, 500, 1000 and beyond, all while maintaining personal life and ministry balance. As founder of Church Leader Insights and the Renegade Pastors Network, he has trained more than 50,000 church leaders (3,000+ church planters). He is the author of over 85 church growth resources and 17+ books, including Fusion: Turning First-Time Guests Into Fully-Engaged Members of Your Church and The Renegade Pastor: Abandoning Average in Your Life and Ministry. His continued mission is to help church leaders around the world cooperate with God in creating healthy, thriving churches. Nelson is married to Kelley and together they have one son, Alexander.

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